Where uncategorizable people design on-purpose lives
Self-development coaching for doing life differently
Your life is to be made, not tolerated
If you are awakening to something confusing, murky, unexpected, or uncomfortable right now—congratulations. Welcome to being human. Your experience makes sense. You’re not alone. And you’re in the right place.
This is the moment when, after vaguely floating along the river of What’s Expected, the boxes you checked—or didn’t—are unignorable. You know the ones: Career. Marriage. Kids. Homeownership. Travel. Those big, big plans.
And then what? Is this all there is? Have things veered off track, in slow-motion or a single thunderclap? Has it turned out that what you thought you wanted… isn’t, really?
Self Made is a call to deeply connect with the self—self-knowledge, self-trust, self-development—and then to make, small step by step, a life that you savor.
We so easily chase shadows, clinging to an idea of a life that is supposed to look a certain way
Programmed to believe, even, that something is wrong with a life that looks different.
But there is a way to tune into that long-silenced inner voice and turn to face your life with gentle, tender honesty. There is a way to nurture that voice, to free yourself from other people’s expectations in order to step into your potential as defined by nobody but you.
When you become aware of how the vast majority of the societal rules we operate under work for very few people, you can begin questioning these rules. You can throw the rules in the garbage. Best of all, you can make your own.
This is your invitation to move forward, see what’s available, shake up your snow globe and rearrange everything.
At Self Made, you can print out the old stories, cut them up, and collage the pieces into a luminous, brand-new future.
Here, you can unspool from the contortions of your past. Here, you can discover what it might be like on the other side of struggle and control, where joy and delight are just as present as everything else. Where you are radiant and at ease, more wild than ever, spine straight, and living into the real life that’s calling.
Integral Coaching for Self-Development
Where consciousness, creativity, and curiosity meet.
Through the Integral Coaching process, you’ll orient towards learning to work with, not against, your innate desires and gifts so you can design a bold, on-purpose life that aligns with your values.
It’s a peeling back of the onion (the Onion of Transformation, if you’re fancy), where you’re free to shed the layers that no longer belong to you and reacquaint yourself with the goodness and vision at your core.
What really, really matters to you? Who are you becoming? What are you yearning to liberate yourself from? Over your personal coaching sessions, you’ll develop practices to live into those questions and wiggle into a new way of being.
Choosing to shift into action and question the default that’s always been presented to you, whether that’s drinking or having kids or a traditional career, is deeply powerful. In a culture that seeks to keep us numbed out and distracted, getting clear about what’s uniquely suited to you is both a rebellious act and a personal renaissance.
And that renaissance gets to be wholehearted, delicious, and playful along the way.
Self-development is personal, but you’re in great community here.
Love for Self Made
Dani Cirignano
Integral Coach | Recovery Guide | Writer | Facilitator
Hi friend, I’m Dani,
While many paths to “self-improvement” focus on conforming to cultural defaults or rely on rigid structures, I founded Self Made to swim in different waters. After all, why fight to transform your life while staying within constructs that don’t work—maybe never worked—for you?
For a long time, I stumbled my own way through all the shoulds and supposed tos, until I woke up to just. how. much. time. I’d spent putting off my life “until tomorrow.”
And now, as an Integral Coach, I partner with creative, rebellious, and bold people like you to help you live into an on-purpose life of your own design.
Together, we nurture supportive practices to sustain ourselves through the long game of healing, self-discovery, deprogramming social constructs, dismantling harmful systems, choosing things that make us feel better rather than worse, navigating all the things life will inevitably throw our way, and, most important of all, cultivating a world that works for all of us.
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Essays, articles, and resources for healing and growth
I write as a creative and spiritual practice, a way to build community, and to light lanterns on the path of transformation for us all.
In the Self Made library, you can delve into crowd-favorite writing about self-development, recovery, creativity, and community (with not-infrequent mentions of my beloved canine companion, Tater).
